Pace and Space
I have been thinking about writing on this theme for the longest time. More than a year, that I’m actually having those two words wandering in my brain. More than a year, that I’m actually not giving myself the proper environment to get to think out loud about those words on paper. What I wanted to write about is what I like and miss the most in my life: Pace and Space. Isn’t it ironic? Welcome to the chronicle of a woman’s journey to find deep heartfelt joy and a meaningful life.
Pace, to me, is all about slowing down. It is a matter of consciously creating a rhythm that works with who we are and what we value. Honoring who I am is very difficult when it comes to thinking about the use of my time. I tend to take on projects and say yes, or even worse, sometimes opening my mouth too quickly and offering help..Why? Because, I perceive that there is an opportunity not to be missed or I feel that if I am not stepping in, nobody else will. All of these are lies and excuses! I can also tell it may have something to do with the fact that being distracted is an unconscious plan to avoid facing my real dream as it may hurt if I do not succeed. Self sabotage at its best!
I have been doing this for years without understanding it deeply in my heart until recently. And because human beings need practice, I have relapses and go back to the old days where I would stretch myself thin to do it all. We cannot be everything for everyone. That is a people pleaser mentality. Yes, you could also call it the superwoman syndrome. I also compare this to attempting to be Mother Theresa. This is too high of a standard to achieve in this life.
So the real questions to ask is Why do we feel the need to be so fast paced? What is so important that we cannot stop? More often than not, the sense of urgency is only in one location: in our head. A lot of what we feel important is just not. Taking the time to stop, live life, and spend time with people we love is of greater importance than finishing up the to do list that has no end. Society has pushed us to believe that being an overachiever is a quality worth cultivating. Have you tried overwatering a seed to make it grow faster?
Space…I see this word as twofold.
The physical environment: Obviously the place where we live and work are what comes to mind at first. Let’s do a quick experience. Stop reading now and lift you eyes off the screen. Look around you. What do you see? Which words would you use to describe your current environment? Is it noisy or calm? Cluttered or in order? What you perceive is a direct reflection of your life. I can tell you that right now my home environment reflects the busyness of my work and the scattered items everywhere are like my mind: racing in all directions without clear focus of where it needs to be in this very moment. How can we focus if everywhere we look there is a constant reminder of things we have to do? How can we have a peaceful, relaxed gaze when there is mess all around us? Decluttering and making time daily to put away what I use is of great importance to me. Because I work from home, everything is an invitation to be distracted from the important task at hand.
The in between thing space
Well, it seems like I made this mistake for so long and still do it from time to time. Stacking activities and appointments back to back like a pile of dirty dishes in the sink is asking for trouble and disaster! Giving ourselves space to breathe in between activities is NOT a waste of our time. It is quite the opposite.This is what gives us time to:
- Put things away to their respective locations;
- Reflect on what just happened or what was said in an important conversation;
- Pencil that appointment we just took;
- Finish writing a note from our training or meeting
- Drink water, go to the bathroom,stretch and take a few deep breaths;
- Get ready physically, mentally emotionally and even spiritually (read being focused and present) for the next important thing or person in our calendar.
Space on your calendar will inarguably give you a new sense of pace. Pace will help you be more comfortable and happier in your space. They both depend on each other. Once you start implementing one, the other, like a twin, will be there nearby, ready to be embraced by you. Will you open yourself to it?